So, just recently my daughter (who’s almost 15) has got her first “proper” boyfriend. When I say “proper”, I mean they meet at McDonalds and flirt which each other via social media! However, this started me thinking; I was married at 21, does this really mean I might only have her for six more years? Scary!
Now I’m 39 ( and still married) I feel I’m in an excellent position to offer my daughter some advice. Reflecting on my own experiences, friend’s relationships and obviously watching soap operas, I feel I am more than qualified. I’m sure she will be thrilled!
If A Guy Doesn’t Text, He’s Just Not Interested!
This one sounds quite a harsh blow, and some of you may not agree, but usually if the man isn’t contacting you on a regular basis, he’s not interested in you. In the early days, when you first meet someone you feel have a connection with, you might start wondering why your phone isn’t beeping. You thought you’d hit it off, spent the evening laughing, and obviously swapped numbers. However, in the days that follow you hear nothing from them, and it starts to play on your mind. Your friends try and discuss other reasons why he might not have been in touch yet; he’s busy, he’s lost your number, he’s intimidated by your beauty, brains and personality. Please believe me when I say, if he wanted you, he would be contacting you. There are so many ways nowadays to track you down, so many social media platforms, friends of friends lists, and easy “stalking” methods online, even if he had lost your number-he could find you if he wanted to! Don’t chase him, walk away and find someone worthy!
Girls Like Words
Men don’t always seem to realise it, but the majority of us girls prefer sentimental words as opposed to a grand gesture. Isn’t it much more special to receive a card with some carefully chosen and somewhat gushing words from your fella, than a random box of chocolates? Even when we receive a beautiful bouquet of flowers, it’s the card that comes with them that we make the bee line for. If your new boyfriend is kind, gives you compliments, and obviously makes you happy, then he’s a keeper. It’s the thought that counts, not what he buys you.
When To Get Out Of It
My final piece advice to my teen, and to anyone for that matter, is recognise when it’s not right and get out. If he gets overly jealous- end it, if he gets possessive- end it, if he goes through your phone- end it, if he’s quick to anger- end it, if he makes you cry- end it, if you’re scared of him- end it. Your boyfriend is meant to be your best friend, if you feel things are no longer right;
END IT, END IT, END IT!!
So there are my three main pieces of advice, I’d love to know your opinions, please feel free to write a comment and share any thoughts. And remember, by the time you realise your mother was right, you have a daughter who thinks you are wrong!