The summer months are our favourite time of year, but they’re also one of our busiest times of the year. This is because our three youngest children all have birthdays really close together. Our youngest, Jacob, will be turning three in August, and starting nursery in September. This upcoming milestone has made me think……..is Jacob really my last baby?
No matter how many children you already have, people always still ask, “Would you have another?” , and with us having a large family anyway, would one more make much difference?
Olivia is my oldest, and at nearly 15 there’s almost a 9 year age gap between her and Holly. Although this is a large gap, they do get on well together. Olivia was a fantastic age when Holly was born, as she didn’t feel sibling rivalry, or see her as a threat, but more as someone she could “mother” and be involved with. She really enjoyed helping me with the new baby, and she was sensible enough that I could let her hold Holly while I quickly ate my breakfast! However, Holly has been one of my feistiest children, having the typical toddler tantrums that seemed to last way beyond the terrible twos! Would I really want to go through that stage again, especially as Jacob’s coming out the other side of it?
Now the boys, Josh and Charlie, have five years between them, and their relationship is a bit up and down. They sometimes get on really well and other times continually squabble! They both have similar interests such a gaming and parkour, but maybe they’re too similar to get on all the time? Would another baby effect the balance even further?
Jacob is the baby of the family, and obviously the most doted on by his siblings. They all have a lot of time for him, and when one doesn’t want to play , there’s always someone who does! Personality wise, I think he’s the child who whinges the most and has no patience when he needs to wait. I think he’s so use to having people do things for him that he wants everything immediately! He’s also the only baby that I needed to have a c-section for, and I find myself questioning if I’d want to go there again?
So there you have it, a brief introduction to my children, and a question still unanswered! Would having that sixth baby be a good choice? I think personally, I will always be broody. When I see a new baby I never remember the bad bits. The labour, the sleep deprivation, the long days that blend into long nights! I only see a new baby and remember the magic that comes with them. I adore the baby stage (it’s my favourite part). You’re given this little miracle that you get to keep and watch grow!
However, with five , I think it’s time for me to say no more. I’ve loved each stage with all of them, but now I’m looking forward to a new stage. A stage were the bottles and the buggies have all been packed away, and we can concentrate on the path that comes next. The freedom of not having a baby to consider when planning a family day out or holiday, is a nice freedom and not as sad as I thought it would be. I’m ready to embrace the new journey and look forward to what it will bring!